How to React When Someone Surprises You by Being Right

I’m not all that proud of this comic now. At the time, I saw no harm in it, but now I don’t feel good about kink-shaming people. Enjoy what you’re into. As long as everybody is a consenting adult, it’s not my place to judge, nor any of my business to begin with.

The point remains that Fifty Shades of Gray works as a fantasy because the guy involved is wealthy, handsome, and willing to change for the woman he loves. My understanding is that it’s much harder to find those three attributes in one man that it is to find a guy who wants to tie you up and smack you with a ping-pong paddle.

Note from Missy: This gets into one of the main points of romance novels in general. A lot of people are snotty about romance (only the most popular genre fiction category in the world) because it’s often so “unbelievable” and “unrealistic. ”What are those “unrealistic” elements? Usually that someone would [a] treat a lead character like a thinking, feeling, intelligent human being; and [b] that the other person often realizes they’re being a jerk, apologizes and makes amends, and make a concerted, visible effort to change their behavior and/or opinions. It’s a sad commentary on our world that this is the kind of weird and improbable stuff we fantasize about.

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