How to Make a Positive Change

Sadly, it takes a lot of guys a long time to reach the conclusion that a woman not being interested in them is a dealbreaker. Society kind of conditions young men to view a total lack of interest on the woman’s part as a challenge to be overcome with persistence and aggression. Who knows how much misery this erroneous message has caused?

If I could go back in time and give teenage me one piece of advice to improve my social life, it would be that pretending to be what you think people will think is “cool” is self-defeating. You’ll never guess right, and even if you do you’ll mess up eventually and they’ll decide you’re a poser (which you in fact will be). Better to find people who already think what you’re actually into is cool. If you know some of those people but you don’t think they are cool enough, then look in the mirror and consider giving them the chance that you wish people who don’t think you’re cool would give you.

That, and I’d tell younger me to lose the Hawaiian shirts. You’ve never seen a palm tree in person, and everyone knows you bought that shirt at the JC Penney in Yakima.

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